Anxiety is one of the most fatal enemies of good sex. A lot of people live with their minds on the future — will I do well, will the other person enjoy it, will I embarrass them — and, when the time comes, tension and nervousness prevent them from relaxing and enjoying themselves. Result: the sex is a fiasco, as the adrenaline involved in the story ends up damaging the excitement of both men and women. In many cases, it is the person himself who loses everything, as the internal charge is greater than the partner's expectations. To avoid this type of drama, how about reflecting on the following tips?
Eliminate any idea of rushing
Even if you don't have all the time in the world to have sex, try to function as if you do. Just worry about doing, or allowing something to be done, what gives you pleasure, without rushing to get to the "finishes".
Breathe correctly Surreptitiously (if you feel better), try to breathe three times in a 4-6-7 pattern (fill your lungs in 4 seconds, hold for 6, and release the air slowly in 7 seconds). This undoes the "chest armor" that sends danger signals to the brain, generating a vicious circle that is dangerous for pleasure and performance. Take a relaxing bath Yes, for two, and preferably in a bathtub. Hot water relaxes muscles, increases vasodilation and soothes the skin. Not to mention that you can start the foreplay right there, at a slower and more pleasant pace, enjoying each other's bodies without rushing.
Choose a familiar scenario
It is often common for couples to look for a different place to have sex because they have a sexual fantasy in mind. However, this pressure to break the routine can become an additional factor in increasing anxiety. How about, at least for the first time, choosing an environment that is familiar and safe?
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Seek tailored stimuli
Men are very visual, so focusing on erotic scenes (like a porn video) helps to calm down and at the same time excite. Women, in turn, tend to be more sensitive, auditory and affective. A relaxing massage with aromatic oils or gentle kisses along the scalp… -
Talk openly
Dialogue is always the fundamental piece for the relationship, especially in bed. Most of the time, talking about what you like, what gives you pleasure, what the other person likes or expects helps you relax and act more in accordance with expectations. However, be careful: some people feel cornered when talking about sexual preferences, as they feel pressured. If you notice any signs of discomfort in this regard, it is a good idea to stop immediately.
Practice meditation
For those who are very anxious, it is a "holy" medicine. It will improve your health as a whole, but in relation to sex it will help with concentration and the ability to feel the present moment,…
Peace and Love
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